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September 4, 2026

Two exceptions, and one of them is friends

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They sent him to rot

In the spring of 1513, a middle-aged bureaucrat was catching thrushes in the hills seven miles south of Florence. Mornings he argued with woodcutters over firewood prices. Afternoons he played backgammon with a miller and a butcher in a roadside tavern, shouting over coins worth almost nothing. Evenings he changed out of his farm clothes into court dress, sat down alone, and wrote.

Ada Palmer, a historian of the Renaissance, explained on the Dwarkesh Podcast that Florentine exile was usually a posting rather than a punishment. Go to Bruges. Go to London. Wait for instructions, run an errand or two for the Republic, and in a few years we will bring you home. Machiavelli got no such posting. The regime that had arrested and tortured him sent him to a hamlet with nobody important in it and nothing to do. The message was: rot.

He had options. A Florentine historian with military experience and contacts in Rome and France could have named his price at a dozen courts, at triple the pay, writing flattering family histories for cardinals. He refused all of it, stayed in the mud, and wrote The Prince as a job application to the men who had ordered his torture. He sent it to them and to a handful of friends. Nobody else.

A man who prices his loyalty has already sold it.

What strikes me is not the patriotism. It is the output. Idleness imposed by enemies produced the most durable book on power ever written. Harvey Firestone, the tyre manufacturer whose Men and Rubber: The Story of Business is really a book about thinking rather than rubber, argued that his most valuable hours were the unscheduled ones, spent camping with Edison, doing nothing that could be billed. Both men understood that a calendar with no gaps in it is a calendar owned by someone else.


The dungeon was the promotion

A young man takes a job in the mailroom at a talent agency. Everyone else in that mailroom wants to become an agent, so they spend their days upstairs, shaking hands, engineering encounters with executives in corridors. He doesn't want to be an agent. So he takes the job nobody else wants: the file room in the basement, sorting contracts. Three years in the dungeon, reading almost all day, working through the entire commercial history of an industry, contract by contract, until they nearly threw him out for it.

Barry Diller, who later built television networks out of that reading, told Shane Parrish on The Knowledge Project that he was lucky precisely because he had no goal. His colleagues had a target and a staircase to it, so every hour got measured against the next step. He had neither, which left him free to absorb.

Goals are useful when the craft is named in advance. Surgery. Law. Piloting an aircraft. The moment the destination is unknowable, the staircase becomes a cage, and most ambitious people never notice they built one. Russ Roberts calls these unresolvable choices wild problems in Wild Problems: A Guide to the Decisions That Define Us, the point being that the decisions that matter most change who you are, so the person doing the calculation is not the person who lives with the answer. You cannot optimise your way toward a self you haven't met yet.

Which is why the ranking of career paths by expected earnings, that spreadsheet every bright twenty-three-year-old builds, is a document of almost total ignorance dressed as rigour. The file room paid nothing and taught everything. It did not appear on any ladder.


Two exceptions, and one of them is friends

Alice Schroeder spent years watching Warren Buffett work before writing The Snowball, and among all the compounding tables and annual letters, the observation that has stayed with me is administrative. He never overextended himself. When something new entered his life, something else left it. He kept two exceptions: money and friends.

The second exception is the strange one. A man famous for arithmetic exempted friendship from the arithmetic.

Everything else was a swap. New board seat, drop something. New interest, retire an old one. No stacking. Most people we meet operate on the opposite principle: the fund, the podcast, the two off-plan units, the advisory board, the second passport, the newsletter, the padel league. Each addition arrives with a plausible story about synergy. None of them displaces anything. Capacity is treated as elastic when it is one of the few genuinely fixed quantities in a human life, and the elasticity is imaginary right up until the week it isn't.

Taleb's via negativa says the reliable improvements come from removal. Subtraction is easier to get right than addition, because you rarely need a forecast to know what is already draining you. Nobody wants to hear it. Removal offers no announcement, no launch, nothing to post. You cannot tell a story about the thing you declined.

But look at the two exceptions again. Money and friends are the only two items on the list that grow while you sleep, and grow faster the longer you hold them, and cost nothing to carry. Everything else in a life is rented. You pay for it in hours, monthly, forever, and the rent rises quietly.

Most portfolios have too many positions. So do most lives.


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